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There is no exact agreement as to when preadolescence starts and ends, and research by Gesell et al. that predominates in the first five years of life: middle childhood by contrast is characterized by 'a child's readiness for school...being self-assured and interested; knowing what kind of behavior is expected...being able to wait, to follow directions, and getting along with other children.' Preadolescent children in fact have a different view of the world from younger children in many significant ways.
suggests that "chronological time..by no means identical with developmental time" – the duration of the "inner" stages of growth' – or with physiological time. Typically, theirs is a more realistic view of life than the intense, fantasy-oriented world of earliest childhood.
Preadolescents have more mature, sensible, realistic thoughts and actions: 'the most "sensible" stage of development..child is a much less emotional being now.' and will have a more developed sense of looking into the future and seeing effects of their actions (as opposed to early childhood where children often do not worry about their future).
This can include more realistic job expectations ("I want to be an engineer when I grow up", as opposed to "I want to be a wizard").
Middle children generally show more investment 'in control over external reality through the acquisition of knowledge and competence': where they do have worries, these may be more a fear of kidnappings, rapes, and scary media events, as opposed to fantasy things (e.g., witches, monsters, ghosts).
Preadolescents may well view human relationships differently (e.g.
they may notice the flawed, human side of authority figures).
Alongside that, they may begin to develop a sense of self-identity, and to have increased feelings of independence: 'may feel an individual, no longer "just one of the family."' Many preadolescents will often start to question their home life and surroundings around this time and they may also start to form opinions that may differ from their upbringing in regards to issues such as politics, religion, sexuality, and gender roles.Greater responsibility within the family can also appear, as middle children become responsible for younger siblings and relatives, as with babysitting; while preadolescents may start caring about what they look like and what they are wearing.Middle children often begin to experience infatuation, limerence, puppy love, or love itself, though arguably at least with 'girls carrying out all the romantic interest....preadolescent girls' romantic pursuits often seem to be more aggressive than affectionate.' Preadolescents may still suffer tantrums at the age of 13, sometimes leading to rash decisions regarding risky actions.Such decisions may in rare cases result in grave situations such as accidental death.Where development has been optimal, preadolescents 'come to school for something to be added to their lives; they want to learn lessons...which can lead to their eventually working in a job like their parents.' some middle children 'come to school for another purpose...[not] to learn but to find a home from home...a stable emotional situation in which they can exercise their own emotional liability, a group of which they can gradually become a part.' would seem to have particular vulnerabilities to parental separation.Among such problems were the very 'eagerness of these youngsters to be co-opted into the parental battling; their willingness to take sides..the intense, compassionate, caretaking relations which led these youngsters to attempt to rescue a distressed parent often to their own detriment.Preadolescents may well be more exposed to popular culture than younger children and have interests based on internet trends, television shows and movies (no longer just cartoons), fashion, technology, music and social media.Preadolescents generally prefer certain brands, and are a heavily targeted market of many advertisers.Their tendency to buy brand-name items may be due to a desire to fit in, although the desire is not as strong as it is with teenagers. reported frequent encounters with sexual material in the media, valued the information received from it, and used it as a learning resource ...and evaluated such content through what they perceived to be sexual morality.' Freud called this stage the latency period to indicate that sexual feelings and interest went underground ...the feelings that create that first "eternal triangle" with the parents fade, and free energy for other interests and activities.' Erik H.