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Q: I made the mistake of clicking on a little email window that popped up on my husband's computer.

This situation underlines the importance of checking in with one's spouse or partner about the various aspects of long-term relationships: finances, in-laws, jobs, children (if any), housekeeping, plans, and sex. So, even though you said your vows and have been together for a while, it sounds like the topic of online chatting and surfing porn sites never came up.

People assume that because they are with a person they know pretty well, they also know how their mate feels about these topics. Sit down with your husband to have this discussion.

If he has sexual desires that he talks about with women online, then ask him to tell you what those are. Are there risks that you might be willing to take in terms of new behavior?

That way you have the opportunity to say, "Yes, I'll do that," or, "No, I won't." You can also ask what prompted him to think that he was doing right by you in this marriage by finding sexual satisfaction online. Your husband may have sincerely thought that he was not straying from your marital vows, or he may be using the technicality that there was no physical contact to dodge the issue that he feels sexually dissatisfied in the marriage.

Evaluate yourself as well: Have you been shutting him out sexually? In either case, talk about what sexual fulfillment means to both of you.

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